Final stage of the wedding! There’s something that always excites me about the exit. There are so many ways to do it and be creative. This is the last impression you get to make on everyone and for you to experience the day of your wedding. Who doesn’t love getting all the attention walking out while everyone is cheering for you? It literally reminds me when at parties we did the tunnel and everyone had to go through–it was the most exciting thing. Or the train?! Well, now you understand why I get so excited, it’s just so fun!
There are so many ways to have a cool exit, but there are some things we need to consider so that not only it’s epic, but also responsible. For example, doves? No, so out of date and plain mean to the beautiful birds. Not only they get super stressed out to be in a cage for hours before they get released, but it feeds to that idea that they are cool and more people are catching them or breeding them for this purpose. What life is that? Same with butterfly release. Googling dove wedding exit, a website popped up from FL saying that releasing doves was sustainable because you are using live doves and basically because they will continue to be used, it is a recyclable method. I vote 100% against this! Totally bs on their part. Confetti poppers? I vote no. Imagine all the tiny pieces of colored paper that probably were not made from recycled paper, and working at venues, not fun to clean up at all. Also, most venues don’t allow any confetti.
Let’s look at some really cool exits that you will definitely enjoy on your special day instead that are really cool, creative and beautiful:
Flowers? yes! Imagine colorful, full of life and beautiful flowers being toss in the air, landing on your hair and dress? I think that would be a great picture. Don’t think that only loose petals can be used, get creative and use the entire head of the flower without the long stem.
Lavender? I can already smell the lavender just writing about it. Calming smell and colorful. Put lavender in recycled paper cones and give them to your guests as favors.
Rice? An all time classic. I like the idea and what it means, but not so much for photos
Colorful cloth streamers? This would work if you didn’t have to buy new cloth to make them. Do you have old t-shirts that you were thinking about donating? You can reuse them and make streamers for guests to use at your exit.
We are almost at the end and guess what? You know it–the bouquet toss. At most weddings now a days, there’s no bouquet toss and you know why? Because wedding bouquets are some what pricy and who wants to toss it away for someone else to have it? Personally, I love the tradition and I would have done it. I think it’s fun and it gives a little hope to the single girl who’s been wanting to get hitch..or not.
One little anecdote, once upon a time when I was just a teenager, I think I was about 14, I was one of the bridesmaids at someone’s wedding. It was really fun, it was literally my first wedding experience because in Chile parents don’t take kids to wedding. Say what?! Yep, they just didn’t, so I never really got to go to one until here in the US of A. The wedding was terrific and I danced a lot, one thing I didn’t know was that I was going to catch the bouquet. I didn’t plan it, the flowers literally landed on my feet. I don’t even know why I was there with the rest of the girls in the first place–marriage was definitely not in my mind then, but there I was and I picked it up. The next part it’s kind of shocking, especially to a 14-year-old girl who just wanted to wear a pretty dress and dance all night, a young boy my age caught the garter and yep it really did happen. I had to sit on a chair and let the young boy put the garter on my leg which by the way it was totally embarrassing considering the entire party was watching and we were in the middle of the dance floor.
Anyways, that’s my very first experience with a bouquet toss, but nevertheless I love the tradition. There are different alternatives to still toss it and to keep it to last for a very long time. One option (which is the most popular one) is to have a tiny bouquet for the toss. This will obviously cost you more, but if you want to keep the tradition and not get rid of yours that’s the way to do it. To keep costs down, remember there are so many flowers in season that you can choose from so talk to your florist and let her know what you are dreaming of!
The wedding reception is the most fun to plan, I would say. There are different things going on and it could be really fun and beautiful or kind of boring, so plan ahead and consider everything! Here is where you really get to show off your style, your dream wedding, your one big day to shine.
Now a days, there are so many different wedding styles such as timeless and elegant, rustic, or themed, etc., and below each of these styles, there are endless options. One thing to consider is to be conscious of what you are getting. For example, do you really need to pay that much extra for flowers or food that are out of season? Honestly, you want to choose food that is in season because it will taste the best and it will be the most fresh. Also for flowers, you can always use the arrangements from the ceremony and bring them inside for centerpieces. This way you will save money and be more eco-friendly.
If you have no idea of what is in season, don’t worry! There are so many experts in the industry that your only job will be to choose your style, tell them what you are thinking of having based on your taste and budget, and they will show you the options available.
Ahhh the party favors…I still don’t know how I feel about them. Every wedding that I have attended to as a guest, as far as I can remember, has not been memorable and I have not kept it throughout the years. There was one wedding that I loved that I coordinated a couple of years ago that had the cutest party favors that also served as the centerpieces. The couple chose a plant that still had the root and they placed them in vases with water. At the end of the night, guests got to take it home and planted it in their yard. How cute is that? Now all the guests who took the plant will always remember the couple because every time they see how beautiful the plant is growing (that’s only if you are not a plant killer…I’m still working on keeping my house plants alive), they’ll think of them. Also, I’ve seen the cookies wrapped in individual plastic baggies..Stop doing this! I feel the same about straws. A good alternative to this is to choose recycled paper baggies or a cute cotton bag, but keep in mind how this baggie can be used again.
In all honestly, all the elements come together at the end and no matter how minimal you feel it could look, it’s going to look beautiful. Remember, this is one day out of your entire life ahead, so plan wisely!
We continue with the wedding ideas saga! Last week, I shared with you ideas for your ceremony and today I want to share ideas for the cocktail hour.
Cocktail hours can last as little as 30 minutes and I wouldn’t go longer than 1 – 1 1/2 hours. At this point, guests are talking about how beautiful the ceremony was and how happy the couple is. Everyone is really excited for the rest of the wedding and want to start celebrating with cool cocktails and yummy appetizers. But if you make it too long, you may run into guests getting too hungry or bored, so if you will have a longer cocktail hour I would suggest having interesting cocktails, and a little more appetizers and possibly something to do in the meantime to entertain guests. Don’t over do the food though. You could possibly do an interesting station that could work as an activity as well like the one I found in The Knot website https://www.theknot.com/content/ways-to-make-your-cocktail-hour-more-fun
Here is where you get to get creative and show a little more about how the reception will be. When choosing your caterer is always easy to look up any vendor with good reviews and probably on the cheaper side because who wants to spend that much money on food? Everything adds up. right?. Also, you are probably thinking that you wouldn’t want to serve too much food (which in a way I totally agree), but, there are so many options now that offer sustainable food, and they are just as tasty and gorgeous if not better! So, don’t slack on your research. Also, remember that there are professionals whose job is to do the research for you, so don’t hesitate to contact them.
Also, you won’t need much decor for this. If the ceremony is outside, have the cocktail hour outside as well and add cocktail tables and votive candles on the tables. The less the better. You don’t want to spend too much money here. Instead, look for fun activities for your guests to play and amazing drinks!
What was your favorite activity at a recent wedding you attended?